Wednesday, April 21, 2010

The Long Road

We went to the oncologist today, Mom, Dad and I. He is a lovely man, sweet and kind and he listened. That's a wonderful quality in a physician, to be a listener.
What Mom has in incurable. She will take the long road to controlling her cancer, but will never be rid of it. It will be a road where we will all work hard to help her maintain quality of life, whatever that means for her.
She was okay with what the doctor was telling her and, somewhat surprisingly, so were Dad and I. I think since we already knew that this was a possibility, we have become reconciled to what lies ahead.
I told her that I would knit her caps of brown eyelash yarn so she could have the curly hair she always wanted, without the usual old lady poodle perm. Maybe I'll make her an orange one for the red hair she always wished one of her kids would get. None of us did- we are all brunettes and proud of it!
So, I will spend time making her laugh, taking her to estate sales and yard sales, preparing for the birth of the first grand and great-grandchild in our family, sorting through all of the crap in the garage and holding a yard sale at the end of the summer, making sure that she doesn't wallow. In other words, doing the same things I've always done.
It shouldn't be any different.


Diva Kreszl said...

I am so sorry to hear about your Mom, I shall be parying for all of you. That she is showing such remarkable courage is a testament to the lovely woman she is. I know that you will continue to shower her with love and attention, what else should there be?

Colleen - the AmAzINg Mrs. B said...

That's exactly what you should be doing ..all the things you love with the people you love..and praying and laughing and sometimes even crying..Let her life be a lesson to all of her loved ones on how to "do" this cancer thing :-)

Prayers and love coming your way!

The Feathered Nest said...

I'm so sorry sweet Karin ~ I just pray her journey is an easy one filled with doing all the things she loves and enjoying her precious family ~ keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers dear friend, hugs and love, Dawn

Welcome To Wilmoth Farms said...

What a graceful woman you are! Such sorrowful news and I'm praying for you. I'm touched by your grit and determination to make every day count and fill it full with every last drop of goodness for your mother and whole family. Its clear in your post that you will be a rock for your mom, the normalcy she will need during a very trying time...God bless you thoughts and prayers are with you during this season and journey...

Thimbleanna said...

Oh Karin -- I'm so sorry. You sound like a wonderful daughter. How lucky your mom is to have you!

Tilda said...

You receive the news. I receive your news. You react with grace, hope, plans and a calming, thoughtful way to handle your days to come. I react to your news with a sadness I have had for many months. I have not had time to fully grieve, nor had the time with Mom to go to escape to the summers garage sales...if only I had known it was coming..
You are a remarkable woman. I know you will make the most of this time together. You remain in my thoughts.
in my fondest... Tilda